My Coaching...

We are all prisoners of our own barriers. Since a very young age we are taught what is possible or not and we are told that life is work. We are told that we should have a house, kids, life is hard and that dreams are not attainable.We are told that life is about sacrifice, that our job does not need to make us happy but should just "pay the bills.” And so, we’re never taught how to make a living doing something we love to do. We are told that only the best can win and that life is about competition rather than encouraging us to respect ourselves and others.

 

Facing a world of growing unhappiness, one of my first questions is, "If anything was possible and with a snap of your finger you could have the life you want, what would your life be like? "

 

As surprising as it may seem, most people truly do not know how to answer. Beyond the usual, "I would leave my job, I would travel..." they don’t know. It’s almost impossible for them to imagine. And when I ask, "What is your dream? What interests you?" they are lost again and unable to answer.

 

We are all prisoners of our own barriers. Since a very young age we are taught what is possible or not and we are told that life is work. We are told that we should have a house, kids, life is hard and that dreams are not attainable.We are told that life is about sacrifice, that our job does not need to make us happy but should just "pay the bills.” And so, we’re never taught how to make a living doing something we love to do. We are told that only the best can win and that life is about competition rather than encouraging us to respect ourselves and others.

 

We are told by society again and again that physical and emotional well-being is useless.

 

Every parent does their best with the “maps” they inherited, but these maps are full of fears, and so they are inevitably a prisoner of their own history. Despite our parent's love for us and our love for our children, this alone does not protect us. Because without removing the burden of our own fears, we unconsciously put them on our children, who then must carry them as well as their own fears and pain which inevitably get passed on from one generation to the next again and again. An endless cycle that can only be broken by working on yourself.

 

Many people come to me when everything seems to be going well according to the culturally prescribed criteria they have been taught such as having a good job, good health and sometimes a family. But these very same people that seem to have everything people want often have something else in common-- they are lost and unhappy.

 

A path of our own… a path towards ourselves.

 

In order to better help my clients, I have adapted and developed my own style of life coaching. Using different “classic” coaching techniques I gained during my various trainings and certification, I also bring other elements from my own experience and travels. More attracted to the practical application of life coaching than it’s theories, my coaching is based on the interactions between me and my client and the exercises used during and/or between sessions.

 

The power of the mind, the brain can be formidable ... both negatively and positively. Aware of this power of the mind and the importance of making peace with oneself and with one’s past, I learned to listen differently, and to guide my clients to make peace with the underlying sufferer-- our wounded inner child. So, my coaching allows a whole reconnection with ourselves, our bodies and our wounded child.

 

Because our body and mind are linked, each part can impact the other with consequences that can sometimes be severe. Well aware of this mind/body connection, I wanted to be able to work, when necessary, with both parts. For this reason, I am also a REIKI practitioner, able to provide more comprehensive support to my clients. Support that can assist both the mind and the body.

 

Each coach has their own approach to coaching and their own personality. Again, it is important to feel good, in complete confidence, and truly engaged in this process of change in which after we feel more free and strong. I tell each of my clients that this feeling of freedom is possible and within reach, but it is not easy. As the coach, I accompany my clients, encourage them, and provide the necessary keys, but thinking that the work is done by me is a mistake. Each of my clients is the master of their own life and emotional freedom and also their suffering. Sometimes we have to faces things that we refused to see for years, but this confrontation is the way to the freedom and peace with oneself, if we hold on.

 

My coaching can also be an effective way to help soothe relationship conflict in a couple with each person being able to freely express their needs, expectations and challenges. I feel the success of a couple very much depends on the capacity of each person to let go of the control that they instinctively exert on the other, and to accept each other as they really are and not as they would like them to be. The goal is to create a safe space for the couple, that doesn’t exclude each person as an individual, and nourishes mutual respect and their differences.

 

Jealousy, stress, fears, irritability, anger, lack of communication or need for control all give rise to tensions within a couple. But this is not inevitable and can be overcome. By each person working on themselves as an individual, as well as working together on the partnership, the couple can build a stronger respect and love.

 

This work itself DOES NOT REPLACE any medical treatment. It is not to be used "instead of," but, "in addition to" ... It is by treating the body and mind that the balance can be found.

 

UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE is this work meant to be a substitute for a proper medical exam

or treatment by a medical physician.